Definitely, Maybe......Definitely, Not

Last night, I watched a movie called Definitely, Maybe. It was about a little girl who's parents are going through a divorce. She lives with her dad and asks him how he met his mother.So he finally agrees to tell her the story, but he changes the names because he wants her to figure out which woman was her mother (he loved several women).

What made me the most angry, was that the women basically threw themselves at him. They were desperate to confess their loves to him. What happen to old fashioned wooing of a woman's heart? What happen to all the mystery involved in getting to know someone slowly. Why are people dying to fall in love? What happen to relational intimacy?

I know for a fact that I don't want to have a string of boyfriends before I meet that special someone. Imagine the emotional baggage that you were carry into that ultimate relationship. Your mind would constantly be filled with "what ifs". Imagine the feeling of looking at your spouse and thinking," What if I had married my first boyfriend?" "Would I be happier?" Doubt and old memories would be like that friend who constantly has to tell you the last gossip. There is another way to live. What if we chose to marry the best man God put in our path? Not necessarily the guy that gave us the most passionate feelings , but the guy who is the most passionate for God?

Further more, what happen to men that actually cherish woman? I want someone who will protect my purity and inspire me to be a better person. Someone who will speak truth into my life and lift me up. Someone who will stand up for me. Someone who is passionate about changing the world.

I'm tired of guys that are just passive and don't care about anything. Guys that don't lead or speak into a woman's life. I must admit I miss my brothers from the Honor Academy so much. They showed me exactly how a godly man should treat a young woman. My brother Jon probably showed me the best how a man should treat a woman. He could come up to me and ask me truly how I was feeling and doing. There was no flirting or goofing around. Words of encouragement were spoken when they were needed.